When we talk about potty training, we can think of diaper farewell ceremonies, siphon scenes by talking to poops and parents whose patience is tried. All of these are true but potty training is much more of them in the background. With a patient, fun and healthy potty training, you can reinforce the mutual trust and commitment between you and your child. It is actually the “fear of quitting” that makes potty training difficult. It is about leaving the diaper, leaving the the poo in the toilet. It’s not the point of view from the eyes of adults. You want him to stop sucking nipples during this time period from infancy to childhood, tell him to give his pacifier to other young children, and to leave his diaper on.
- 1 Your child is ready for potty training, what if you’re not ready?
- 2 How can I tell if my child is ready for potty training?
- 3 How should we start potty training?
Your child is ready for potty training, what if you’re not ready?
Sometimes families use the right time only through children. Right time; it is when you, your child, and the circumstances are ready. For example, you may have recently lost a relative, you may be in a period where your business is extra busy, your business travel will increase, your child may have recently received news that he or she will have a sibling, your caregiver may have just started work or has left the job. All these and similar periods are not suitable for potty training. You need to be at a time when you can be really patient, determined, and your attention can be concentrated on your child.
So, when is the right time for your child?
Let’s say you feel extremely ready. What about the right time for your child?In the literature, 18-36 months is defined as the ideal period for potty training. Let’s say you follow the range given in the literature, but is your child ready for this process?
How can I tell if my child is ready for potty training?
If your child is able to express himself / herself in words, express his / her desires, acquire basic self-care skills (take off his t-shirt, wash his hands, etc.) and show that he is uncomfortable with the wetness of his diaper, he is ready to be the hero of his own potty training. You can start by correctly interpreting your child’s physical and mental development signals without forgetting that each child’s development is different and without comparing them with the children around you.
How should we start potty training?
I suggest you not to start this process suddenly. We can give a few simple suggestions that will work in the potty training process;
- Before saying goodbye to the diaper, you will prepare your child with the books and stories, and add fun potty training books to the list of things you share together. Being in the bathroom while reading books helps your child’s mind to reinforce events with visuals.
- Sometimes the sound of a siphon can be scary for children, you can let it play with the siphon to beat it.
- Making your bathroom fun during toilet training can make things easier. You can even go shopping for potty, underwear and soap dispenser. Your child will adopt the potty of his choice more and the underwear of his choice easily. So, he will want to say goodbye to the diaper more quickly.
Let your child adopt the bathroom during the potty training process…
- After the toilet, you can ease the habit of washing your hands by buying a tiny soap and soap dispenser. Think of it as our main goal is to have your child adopt the bathroom. As the child finds something of his own there, the bathroom will become a place where he brushes his teeth with pleasure, looks impatient to have a bath, does not complain about the routine of washing his hands and pisses off without fear of quitting.
“Let’s go back to a diapers, nothing will happen..”
- Being stable and determined accelerates the process. For example, you started toilet training but you are invited to a birthday at the weekend, unfortunately it is not an innocent approach to think “let’s go back to a diaper”. When you start the potty training process, you should say goodbye to the diaper completely and remove the diaper alternative from your life. Children love stability, routines and limits. They make their lives easier.
Support your child during the potty training process.
- During potty training, you should choose clothes that are easy to wear and remove. Your child may not be able to reach the toilet and feel unsuccessful as he discovers he needs to pee at the last moment and tries to take off his pantyhose. Sometimes they can’t reach the toilet because they don’t want to quit the game. You can give him little reminders while playing. For example, you can reassure him by saying “if you need to pee, we can continue where we left off. No one touches these legos until we return”.
You wetted yourself again? When will you learn to pee?
Patience is a must. But you cannot punish your child by saying “Did you wet yourself again? Did you wet your bed again?”. The potty training that involve punishment will damage the connection between you and your child.
The dynamics of each child are different.
Some children can easily complete this process in 1-2 weeks, while for others it can take 1-2 months. The more you keep yourself and your child away from stress, the more you will experience a healthy potty training process. If your child shows resistance or if you feel that you have difficulty in providing this training, do not hesitate to consult a specialist. And finally, I would like to remind you; potty training is a process that you can live with your child once, so just enjoy it and take another loop of trust between you.